Definition of friends in the Dictionary: “a person with whom one has a bond of mutual affection, typically one exclusive of sexual or family relations” Synonyms: Companion, bosom friend, , confidante, soul mate, second self..,
It is awesome to have that one or 2 people that you can talk to, share your thoughts with, braai with but not all friends are equal and should not be as we are all different in thinking and character.
Someone has defined friendship as “knowing the heart of another and sharing one’s heart with another.” We share our hearts with those we trust, and trust those who care about us. We confide in our friends because we have confidence that they will use the information to help us, not harm us. They in turn confide in us for the same reason.
I think you get a couple of different kind of friends:
This is the person who are a great person and you know him or her, but its not your close friend. You see them at functions mostly and always have a nice time with them. This person is not a close friend and this could be because of living too far apart or not really doing the same thing during the week but you still enjoy them.
2. Work Friend
This person who see on a regular basis as you work together and you can talk for a long time yet when work finishes there is not much to talk about but work. So great for normal day to day but nothing serious.
3. Loyal best Friend
This is the person that you enjoy very much. You enjoy the talks with them, you enjoy their brutal honesty, their interest in you and you can talk literally about anything. This is the person you see on a regular basis, probably 2 to 3 times a week. You have dinner together, your kids visit and even they enjoy each other, your wives (or visa versa) visit. You share the same ideas, thoughts and phone each other often to just chat.
4. Spiritual or Mentor Friend
This should in my opinion not be your close friend. When you have a mentor that person needs to be totally objective when giving advice, when looking at your situation or questions. This person again my opinion is an older person (could be same or younger) but with experience, a person who really think about things clearly and do not make quick decisions.
For us personally number 3 is what we (my wife and I) have been desiring for a long time. We have loads of friends who we see on a regular basis but its mostly the events that bring us together. We know some awesome people but still desire those very close friends.
Now what does the Bible say about friends as we always have to go back to what the Word says in all things:
Proverbs 18:24 ESV
A man of many companions may come to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.
John 15:13 ESV
Greater love has no one than this, that someone lay down his life for his friends.
Proverbs 27:17 ESV
Iron sharpens iron, and one man sharpens another.
Proverbs 17:17 ESV
A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.
1 Thessalonians 5:11 ESV
Therefore encourage one another and build one another up, just as you are doing.
Proverbs 27:9 ESV
Oil and perfume make the heart glad, and the sweetness of a friend comes from his earnest counsel.
Hebrews 10:24-25 ESV
And let us consider how to stir up one another to love and good works, not neglecting to meet together, as is the habit of some, but encouraging one another, and all the more as you see the Day draw
Proverbs 27:6 ESV
Faithful are the wounds of a friend; profuse are the kisses of an enemy.
And many more!
We often refer to Jesus as our friend because we know that He wants what is best for us. We confide in Him because we trust Him. But have you ever considered that Jesus confides in His people?
Jesus began calling His disciples friends rather than servants because He had entrusted them with everything He had heard from His Father (John 15:15). Jesus trusted the disciples to use the information for the good of His Father’s kingdom.
Although we know that Jesus is our friend, can we say that we are His friends? Do we listen to Him? Or do we only want Him to listen to us? Do we want to know what’s on His heart? Or do we only want to tell Him what’s on ours? To be a friend of Jesus, we need to listen to what He wants us to know and then use the information to bring others into friendship with Him.